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  • gretchenrubin 14:00:21 on 2017/08/21 Permalink
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    A Little Happier: Sometimes, It’s Better to Help than to Sympathize. 

    Years ago, during the hubbub surrounding preparations for a wedding, a friend’s silent example of taking action, rather than just talking, has stuck with me for my whole life.

    Sometimes, it’s better to help than to sympathize. As the old saying goes, actions can speak louder than words.

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  • gretchenrubin 14:49:45 on 2017/05/31 Permalink
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    Podcast 119: Have Friends of Different Ages, Manage Mild Pain, and a Doctor-Related Demerit. 

    Happier with Gretchen Rubin

    Update: Our next Very Special Episode will be dedicated to listener questions about the Four Tendencies, so if you have questions or comments, send them in. (Don’t know your Tendency? Take the quiz here to see if you’re an Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, or Rebel.)

    Try This at Home: Make friends with people of different ages. Hearing about their different experiences is helpful, and also makes life richer.

    Happiness Hack: Always look behind you when you leave a restaurant, a car, a conference table. It’s a simple habit that saves a lot of hassle.

    Happiness Stumbling Block: Pain is a huge happiness stumbling block. If we can take steps to manage pain, it’s a way to boost happiness.

    Listener Question: Jen asks, “I’m an Obliger. My friends ask me to attend or host home parties. This puts me in a bind.”

    Gretchen’s Demerit: I haven’t had a skin cancer check in two years.

    Elizabeth’s Gold Star: Elizabeth gives a gold star for planning a fun family weekend for two families.

    Two Resources:

    1.  If you’d like to buy a happier t-shirt, email us, and we’ll get that underway.
    2. If you’d like to see a copy of my manifestos (I love manifestos), just request by email.

    If you want easy instructions about how to rate or review the podcast, look here. Remember, it really helps us if you do rate or review the podcast — it helps other listeners discover us.

    I do weekly live videos on my Facebook Page to continue the conversation from the podcast — usually on Tuesdays at 3:00 pm ET. To join the conversation, check the schedule.

    As always, thanks to our terrific sponsors

    Check out Texture. Get access to all your favorite magazines — including back issues and bonus video content — in one super-convenient place. Try the app Texture for free by going to Texture.com/happier.

    Also check out ThirdLove, the lingerie brand that uses real women’s measurements to design better-fitting bras. Try one of their bestselling bras for free, for 30 days, by visiting ThirdLove.com/happier.

    Visit Framebridge.com — a terrific way to get your art and photos framed, in a super easy and affordable way. Use the code HAPPIER at checkout to get 15% off your first Framebridge order. Shipping is free.

    We love hearing from listeners:

     

    To sign up for my free monthly newsletter, text me at 66866 and enter the word (surprise) “happier.“ Or click here.

    If you enjoyed the podcast, please tell your friends and give us a rating or review. Click here to tell your friends on Twitter.

    Listeners really respect the views of other listeners, so your response helps people find good material. (Not sure how to review? Instructions here; scroll to the bottom.)

    How to Subscribe

    If you’re like me (until recently) you’re intrigued by podcasts, but you don’t know how to listen or subscribe. It’s very easy, really. Really.  To listen to more than one episode, and to have it all in a handier way, on your phone or tablet, it’s better to subscribe. Really, it’s easy.

    Want to know what to expect from other episodes of the podcast, when you listen to the award-winning Happier with Gretchen Rubin?” We talk about how to build happier habits into everyday life, as we draw from cutting-edge science, ancient wisdom, lessons from pop culture—and our own experiences (and mistakes).  We’re sisters, so we don’t let each other get away with much!

    Want a new podcast to listen to, with the same vibe as Happier? The Onward Project is the family of podcasts that I’ve launched, for podcasts that are about “your life–made better.” Check out these great shows: Side Hustle School and Radical Candor and Happier in Hollywood .

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  • gretchenrubin 15:42:04 on 2017/05/10 Permalink
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    Podcast 116: Start a Side Hustle, a Travel Hack, and the Stumbling Block of “Raising the Bar.” 

    Update: Elizabeth’s new podcast Happier in Hollywood launches on May 18!

    Try This at Home:  Start a side hustle. We were inspired by Chris Guillebeau‘s excellent podcast Side Hustle School (which is part of The Onward Project, by the way).

    Elizabeth and I interviewed Chris during our live event in Seattle. If you want to listen, it’s in episode 87.

    Chris’s terrific book, Side Hustle: From Idea to Income in 27 Days, is available for pre-order.

    If you want to take the quiz to see if you’re an Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, or Rebel, take it here.

    Also, I now have a cover for my book The Four Tendencies. We worked on it for a long time, and I love the final version.
    1pixThe Four Tendencies by Gretchen Rubin

    The Four Tendencies is now available for pre-order. (If you’re inclined to buy the book, it’s a big help to me if you pre-order; pre-orders build support among booksellers, the media, and other readers.)

    Happiness Hack: When Christa travels for work, she takes pictures of Mr. Potato Head in various places. This gets her out of the conference venue and is a fun thing to send to her children.

    Elizabeth mentions the father Stephen who photo-shops pictures of his baby in dangerous places (see above). You can see more photos here.

    Happiness Stumbling Block: Sometimes, with very good intentions, people “raise the bar” in a way that takes the satisfaction out of our achievements.

    Listener Question: Sarah asks whether it’s a crazy idea to keep a chart of “keeping-in-touch goals” to strengthen her relationships.

    Demerit: Elizabeth doesn’t make timely decisions.

    Gold Star: I give a gold star to my daughters’ school, which has many lovely, fun traditions for seniors to celebrate the end of high school. If you want to hear Eliza talk about a school tradition on her podcast, Eliza Starting at 16, listen to the bonus clip at the end of this episode, or listen to the whole episode here.

    Two Resources:

    1.  If you’d like a discussion guide for my Better Than Before, you can download it here; for The Happiness Project or Happier at Home, download here. Or email me to request what you want.
    2. Speaking of my books, Mother’s Day approaches. If you need a gift for a mother in your life, I will self-promotingly suggest that one of my books might make a good gift. The books, the coloring book, The One-Sentence Journal for Mothers, there’s a lot to choose from.

    If you want easy instructions about how to rate or review the podcast, look here. Remember, it really helps us if you do rate or review the podcast — it helps other listeners discover us.

    I do weekly live videos on my Facebook Page to continue the conversation from the podcast — usually on Tuesdays at 3:00 pm ET. To join the conversation, check the schedule.

    As always, thanks to our terrific sponsors

    Check out Stamps.com. Want to avoid trips to the post office, and buy and print official U.S. postage for any letter or package, right from your own computer and printer? Visit Stamps.com to sign up for a 4-week trial,  including postage and a digital scale — just enter the promo code HAPPIER.

    Also check out Texture. Get access to all your favorite magazines — including back issues and bonus video content — in one super-convenient place. Try the app Texture for free by going to Texture.com/happier.

    Also check out ThirdLove, the lingerie brand that uses real women’s measurements to design better-fitting bras. Try one of their bestselling bras for free, for 30 days, by visiting ThirdLove.com/happier.

    We love hearing from listeners:

     

    To sign up for my free monthly newsletter, text me at 66866 and enter the word (surprise) “happier.“ Or click here.

    If you enjoyed the podcast, please tell your friends and give us a rating or review. Click here to tell your friends on Twitter.

    Listeners really respect the views of other listeners, so your response helps people find good material. (Not sure how to review? Instructions here; scroll to the bottom.)

    How to Subscribe

    If you’re like me (until recently) you’re intrigued by podcasts, but you don’t know how to listen or subscribe. It’s very easy, really. Really.  To listen to more than one episode, and to have it all in a handier way, on your phone or tablet, it’s better to subscribe. Really, it’s easy.

    Want to know what to expect from other episodes of the podcast, when you listen to the award-winning Happier with Gretchen Rubin?” We talk about how to build happier habits into everyday life, as we draw from cutting-edge science, ancient wisdom, lessons from pop culture—and our own experiences (and mistakes).  We’re sisters, so we don’t let each other get away with much!

    Want a new podcast to listen to, with the same vibe as Happier? The Onward Project is the family of podcasts that I’ve launched, for podcasts that are about “your life–made better.” The first shows are Side Hustle School and Radical Candor. Elizabeth’s show with her writing partner, Sarah Fain, will be Happier in Hollywood, so stay tuned for that on May 18.

    HAPPIER listening!

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  • gretchenrubin 23:10:24 on 2017/03/29 Permalink
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    Podcast 110: A Very Special Episode on a Major Happiness Stumbling Block–Are You Lonely? 

    It’s time for the next installment of Happier with Gretchen Rubin.

    Update: This is the month of #trypod, when we’re all trying to help people discover new great podcasts. And our current producer Kristen Meinzer and our former producer Henry Molofsky are both involved in terrific podcasts.

    In the new podcast By the BookKristen and her co-host comedian Jolenta Greenberg zealously follow the precepts of a particular self-help book, to see if the advice actually works. First up: The Secret. It’s funny, thought-provoking…just terrificBy the Book is part of a pilot project run by Panoply, so you can vote for the podcast to get greenlit here.

    Henry is the producer over at the blockbuster mega-hit Missing Richard Simmons. In 2014, the exercise guru and very public figure Richard Simmons vanished from view. In the six-part series, Dan Taberski tries to figure out what happened. Very suspenseful, and really makes you think about many different issues — the podcast has generated a lot of analysis and discussion. My own view of what happened? Obliger-Rebellion! But listen for yourself.

    Very Special Episode: Loneliness.

    Loneliness is one of the biggest, most serious happiness stumbling blocks out there. One of the keys — maybe the key — to happiness is strong connections to other people. The lack of these bonds, even temporarily, is a major happiness stumbling block.

    When we know what kind of loneliness we’re feeling, it’s easier to see possible ways to tackle it. For instance, have you experienced…

    For instance, have you experienced…

    • New-situation loneliness
    • I’m-different loneliness
    • No-sweetheart loneliness
    • No-time-for-me loneliness
    • Untrustworthy-friends loneliness
    • Quiet-presence loneliness
    • No-animal loneliness
    • No-friend-group loneliness
    • I’m-alone-in-this-experience loneliness
    • Parent-of-young-children loneliness/Empty-nest loneliness
    • Everyone-else-is-having-fun loneliness

     

    So what to do about loneliness?

    • Take steps to connect with others (obvious, but important)
    • Show up
    • Revive a dormant friendship. We talked about this in episode 79.
    • Nurture others.

     

    I mention two books that I highly recommend: John Cacioppo and William Patrick, Loneliness: Human Nature and the Need for Social Connection, and Emily WhiteLonely, a memoir about the author’s own experiences and research into loneliness. Also, in my books The Happiness Project and Happier at Home, I write a lot about how to build and strengthen relationships.

    I also mention the immortal line from Russell Hoban’s brilliant picture book A Bargain for Frances: “Do you want to be careful, or do you want to be friends?” (If you’d like to read a New York Times piece I wrote about my love for Frances, it’s here.)

    Demerit: Elizabeth skipped a Moms’ Night Out.

    Gold Star: I give a gold star to Eliza and Eleanor for encouraging (nagging?) us as a family to get a dog. Our dog Barnaby makes us very happy.

    If you want easy instructions about how to rate or review the podcast, look here. Remember, it really helps us if you do rate or review the podcast — it helps other listeners discover us.

    I do weekly live videos on my Facebook Page to continue the conversation from the podcast — usually on Tuesdays at 3:00 pm ET. To join the conversation, check the schedule.

    As always, thanks to our terrific sponsors

    Check out Stamps.com. Want to avoid trips to the post office, and buy and print official U.S. postage for any letter or package, right from your own computer and printer? Visit Stamps.com to sign up for a 4-week trial,  including postage and a digital scale — just enter the promo code HAPPIER.

    Also check out Texture. Get access to all your favorite magazines — including back issues and bonus video content — in one super-convenient place. Try the app Texture for free by going to Texture.com/happier.

    And check out Smith and Noble, the solution for beautiful window treatments. Go to smithandnoble.com/happier for 20% off window treatments and free in-home or on-phone design consultations and free professional measuring.

    We love hearing from listeners:

     

    To sign up for my free monthly newsletter, text me at 66866 and enter the word (surprise) “happier.“ Or click here.

    If you enjoyed the podcast, please tell your friends and give us a rating or review. Click here to tell your friends on Twitter.

    Listeners really respect the views of other listeners, so your response helps people find good material. (Not sure how to review? Instructions here; scroll to the bottom.)

    How to Subscribe

    If you’re like me (until recently) you’re intrigued by podcasts, but you don’t know how to listen or subscribe. It’s very easy, really. Really.  To listen to more than one episode, and to have it all in a handier way, on your phone or tablet, it’s better to subscribe. Really, it’s easy.

    Want to know what to expect from other episodes of the podcast, when you listen to the award-winning Happier with Gretchen Rubin?” We talk about how to build happier habits into everyday life, as we draw from cutting-edge science, ancient wisdom, lessons from pop culture—and our own experiences (and mistakes).  We’re sisters, so we don’t let each other get away with much!

    Want a new podcast to listen to, with the same vibe as Happier? The Onward Project is the family of podcasts that I’ve launched, for podcasts that are about “your life–made better.” The first shows are Side Hustle School and Radical Candor. Elizabeth’s show with her writing partner, Sarah Fain, will be Happier in Hollywood, so stay tuned for that.

    HAPPIER listening!

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  • feedwordpress 20:11:39 on 2017/02/23 Permalink
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    7 Types of Loneliness (and Why It Matters) 

    Loneliness

    One major challenge within happiness is loneliness.  The more I’ve learned about happiness, the more I’ve come to believe that loneliness is a common and important obstacle to consider.

    To be happy, we need intimate bonds; we need to be able to confide, we need to feel like we belong, we need to be able to get and give support. In fact, strong relationships are key — perhaps the key — to a happy life.

    Of course, being alone and being lonely aren’t the same. Loneliness feels draining, distracting, and upsetting; desired solitude feels peaceful, creative, restorative.

    It seems to me that there are several types of loneliness. Of course, not everyone experiences loneliness in the situations described — for instance, not everyone wants a romantic partner. But for some people, the lack of certain kinds of relationships brings loneliness.

    Once we’ve pinpointed the particular kind of loneliness we’re experiencing, it may be easier to spot ways to address it.

    Here are some types I’ve identified — what have I overlooked?

    7 Types of Loneliness

    1. New-situation loneliness

    You’ve moved to a new city where you don’t know anyone, or you’ve started a new job, or you’ve started at a school full of unfamiliar faces. You’re lonely.

    2. I’m-different loneliness

    You’re in a place that’s not unfamiliar, but you feel different from other people in an important way that makes you feel isolated. Maybe your faith is really important to you, and the people around you don’t share that — or vice versa. Maybe everyone loves doing outdoor activities, but you don’t — or vice versa. It feels hard to connect with others about the things you find important. Or maybe you’re just hit with the loneliness that hits all of us sometimes — the loneliness that’s part of the human condition.

    3. No-sweetheart loneliness

    Even if you have lots of family and friends, you feel lonely because you don’t have the intimate attachment of a romantic partner. Or maybe you have a partner, but you don’t feel a deep connection to that person.

    4. No-animal loneliness

    Many people have a deep need to connect with animals. If this describes you, you’re sustained by these relationships in a way that human relationships don’t replace. While I love my dog Barnaby, I don’t feel this myself — but many people feel like something important is missing if they don’t have a dog or cat (or less conveniently, a horse) in their lives.

    5. No-time-for-me loneliness

    Sometimes you’re surrounded by people who seem friendly enough, but they don’t want to make the jump from friendly to friends. Maybe they’re too busy with their own lives, or they have lots of friends already, so while you’d like a deeper connection, they don’t seem interested. Or maybe your existing friends have entered a new phase that means they no longer have time for the things you all used to do — everyone has started working very long hours, or has started  family, so that your social scene has changed.

    6. Untrustworthy-friends loneliness

    Sometimes, you get in a situation where you begin to doubt whether your friends are truly well-intentioned, kind, and helpful. You’re “friends” with people but don’t quite trust them. An important element of friendship is the ability to confide and trust, so if that’s missing, you may feel lonely, even if you have fun with your friends.

    7. Quiet-presence loneliness

    Sometimes, you may feel lonely because you miss having someone else’s quiet presence. You may have an active social circle at work, or have plenty of friends and family, but you miss having someone to hang out with at home — whether that would mean living with a roommate, a family member, or a sweetheart. Just someone who’s fixing a cup of coffee in the next room, or reading on the sofa.

    It’s important to realize why we  feel lonely, because only then can we see how we might address it.

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    If you read this list, and you’re thinking, “Yes, I do feel lonely — so what the heck do I do about it?” you might find this post useful: Lonely? 5 Habits to Consider to Combat Loneliness. Or this: Feeling Lonely? Consider Trying These 7 Strategies. (These posts are different from each other, even though the titles sound similar.)

    It’s important to realize why we feel lonely, because only then can we see how we might address it. If you’re no-time-for-me lonely, for instance, maybe a solution would be to work with people on a project, where you’d be doing an endeavor together, on something you’ve all made time for. My mother once noted — and I think it’s very true — it’s easier to make friends when you’re working on a project together.

    Loneliness is a major factor in unhappiness, so it’s an important area to tackle, if you’re working on making yourself happier.

    Want to learn more? When I researched loneliness, I was very surprised by what I found, which I wrote about here: Some counter-intuitive facts about loneliness.

    If you want to read more deeply on the subject of loneliness, I highly recommend two books: John Cacioppo and William Patrick, Loneliness: Human Nature and the Need for Social Connection, and Emily White, Lonely, a memoir about the author’s own experiences and research into loneliness. Also, in my books The Happiness Project and Happier at Home, I write a lot about how to build and strengthen relationships.

    One of the keys — maybe the key — to happiness is strong connections to other people. The lack of these bonds, even temporarily, is a major happiness stumbling block.

    Have you found any good ways to understand and deal with loneliness?

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  • feedwordpress 17:20:36 on 2016/10/17 Permalink
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    A Little Happier: Do What You Love, and Then Your Friends Hire You. 

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    I was reminded of this Secret of Adulthood just again last night. At a party, I was talking to someone I’d known from law school, who had gone on to be a very well-established artist.

    I asked her how she made this (fairly unusual) transition. It was a long, interesting story, and at one point she said, “I got to know a lot of artists, just from going to shows and doing all the things that interested me.” Those artists didn’t hire her, but knowing them helped her make the shift.

    Plus I was recently at another party, also with a bunch of friends from law school and from my clerkship with Justice O’Connor. They were mostly working as lawyers or in business, and they said how funny it was that many of them now were the clients of others, and that it was fun to work together in this way.

    Of course, this observation wouldn’t be true in every kind of career, but it does seem to me that when we follow our natural interests and inclinations, we readily form the relationships that can help us to succeed.

    Agree, disagree?

     

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  • feedwordpress 21:00:49 on 2016/08/16 Permalink
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    News Flash: Watching TV with Your Sweetheart May Boost Your Happiness. 

    Watching TV Happiness

    I’m very interested in the role of TV-watching in our happiness. After all,  after sleeping and work, it’s the biggest consumer of the world’s time.

    So I was interested to see that new research suggests that for  couples who don’t have lots of mutual friends, watching the same TV show (or reading the same book or going to the same movie) can help both people feel that they inhabit in the same social world.

    It turns out that couples who have lots of mutual friends tend to have the strongest bonds, and for those who don’t have a lot of mutual friends, having “shared media experiences” helps them to feel connected.

    This rang true for me. My husband Jamie and I have some mutual friends, but our social worlds don’t overlap extensively. Years ago, we both worked at the Federal Communications Commission, and I remember how much fun it was when we knew so many people in common.

    We do have the habit of choosing shows to watch together, and it really is an activity that draws us closer. For instance, we’ve watched Transparent, Game of Thrones, The Wire, Lost, The Shield.

    I bet this finding is true for non-romantic relationships, too. With my daughters, I’ve watched The Office (American version), Friends (yes, questionable judgment on my part, it’s raunchier than I remembered), The Mindy Project, SuperStore. And I’ve heard of offices that have a specific “office show” that people watch and discuss. It gives everyone something to talk about — and a form of unhurtful gossip — apart from work.

    I love to read, and I like reading in a room where someone else is reading, but it’s true that this activity has never seemed as…companionable…as watching the same TV show or movie. We’re not inhabiting the same inner world, we’re not reacting to the same material at the same time.

    I always felt a bit guilty about watching these TV shows with my husband — shouldn’t we be doing something else? But now I recognize that it’s a valuable, relationship-strengthening activity.

    Do you have a TV show that you watch with your sweetheart? Do you feel as if it draws you closer?

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  • feedwordpress 16:35:27 on 2016/07/18 Permalink
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    A Little Happier: We Can’t Spare Our Children Normal Social Pain. 

    Children social pain

    I have a few favorite parenting books that I’ve read and re-read, books such as Faber and Mazlish’s How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk and Siblings Without Rivalry; Schulman and Birnbaum’s Practical Wisdom for Parents; and Thompson’s Best Friends, Worst Enemies: Understanding the Social Lives of Children.

    In today’s Little Happier (scroll down and click to listen), I talk about a truth from Michael Thompson’s book Mom, They’re Teasing Me: Helping Your Child Solve Social Problems that I find both sad and reassuring: we can’t spare our children normal social pain.

    Sidenote: One thing I’ve learned is that advice that’s great for children usually applies equally well for adults. I apply most of what I’ve learned from these books to my adult relationships, with equal success. For instance, when I was researching habits for Better Than Before, I did a fair amount of research on the design of pre-school and kindergarten routines.

    Want to get in touch? I love hearing from listeners:

     

    Happier listening!

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  • feedwordpress 19:41:52 on 2015/12/30 Permalink
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    Podcast 45: Home for the Holidays, Kansas City Edition! We Record at Winstead’s. 

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    It’s time for the next installment of  “Happier with Gretchen Rubin.1pix

    Update: It’s the Kansas City edition! We begin our recording from a table at Winstead’s, the beloved Kansas City diner that’s our family’s favorite place to eat. Plus we feature some special guests.

    Elizabeth and I had so much fun recording this — it’s always extra-fun when we’re together, and it was great to be in our hometown.

    Try This at Home: “Identify your special places.” The restaurant Winstead’s is definitely one of our special family places.

    PodcastElizabethEatingBurgerWinsteadsI quote from Mircea Eliade’s The Sacred and the Profane: the Nature of Religion: “There are, for example,  privileged places, qualitatively different from all others — a man’s birthplace, or the scenes of his first love, or certain places in the first foreign city he visited in youth. Even for the most frankly nonreligious man, all these places still retain an exceptional, a unique quality; they are the ‘holy places’ of his private universe.”

    Know Yourself Better: Is there a New Year’s resolution that you’ve made over and over?

    Update! We talked to my sixteen-year-old daughter Eliza in Episode 30, and here, she gives us an update. Also, she announces that she has started a podcast of her own. Check out Eliza Starting at Sixteen. She does the whole thing herself — recording, editing, everything. ElizaStartingat16logo Which astounds me.

    Mindy’s Gold Star: One of Elizabeth’s best friends, Mindy, gives a gold star to her father, who told her, “Always pay attention to what you have, instead of focusing on what you don’t have.”

    podcastEEEandGinclosetEleanor’s Gold Star: My ten-year-old daughter gave a gold star to our family, for getting a dog. We didn’t think we were a dog family – but we did it! And we’re so happy.

    Note: it’s hard to see, but I’m wearing a t-shirt that Elizabeth gave me a few Christmases ago — a bluebird wearing a Santa hat.

    Special plea: I’m trying to think of a word to fill in the blank: “The Four _____ Tendencies.” What word could I add, that would help convey the nature of the framework to people who haven’t heard of it? Please send your ideas!

    Remember, if you live in the Bay area:  Elizabeth and I are doing our first live recording of the podcast! January 21, Brava Theater, we hope to see you. Info and tickets here.  We’ll have two outstanding guests, Nir Eyal and Jake Knapp. Plus Elizabeth and I have planned special little treats, and you also get a copy of Better Than Before with your ticket.

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    As always, thanks to our terrific sponsors

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    To sign up for my free monthly newsletter, text me at 66866 and enter the word (surprise) “happier.“ Or click here.

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